BOOK REVIEW: You and Me forever – Marriage in light of eternity. FRANCIS & LISA CHAN

Hey guys…

I’m back!! And with something a bit different this month… A book review.

So, at the end of June, I spent 7 or so days reading Francis & Lisa Chan’s, ‘You & Me Forever’… and it has literally changed my life.

I LOVE Francis Chan. He is amazing, and so are his books! He is after God’s whole heart, and encourages us to be too!

So, the first time that I ever read a Francis Chan book was a few years back, approximately 2014. It was his book called ‘Forgotten God: Reversing Our Tragic Neglect of The Holy Spirit’. This book is amazing. At this time I did not know much about Francis Chan, I just came across an excerpt of this particular book and thought let me order it. If you have never read one of his books, I would encourage you to.

This is literally one of the best books I’ve ever read.

Despite the title being about marriage, this book is all about God.  It involves Francis and Lisa Chan submitting to us that our marriages need to be less focused on ourselves and more focused on our God. The way I have articulated this may not sound particularly challenging, but trust me, the book is. They suggest that the formula to having a happy marriage is not to focus on your spouse…

So why did I read this book?

I’d seen it recommended by engaged couples… and although I am not yet in that season, I thought to myself If i read this book, surely I can take something away from it. Also, with it being a Francis Chan book I KNEW it would be a good read. This book is insane. It is amazing. I have never been disappointed by a Francis Chan book! Honestly.

So what actually caught my attention?:

  • I think the beauty of this book is that the content can be applied whether married or not. But certainly it will enhance your marriage if applied during that time. So, not only do I think that this book is perfect for the suggested audience, I also believe that it is by no means needs to be limited to married people!
  • I also love that Francis Chan & his wife, Lisa, have included a part in each chapter entitled: ‘Do Something’ I think this is crucial. Not only do they recognise that it is very important that we do something with/apply the knowledge we gain, but Jesus also says it too! In Matthew 7:24 NKJV “Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock…” and He goes on to say, that those who hears his sayings, but do not do them, is F O O L I S H.


There comes a point where we have to do something with the information we have acquired. Apply it, and share it.

  • One of the things that I look about what Francis Chan has done with this book is that he has not separated the joys of marriage, from our mission as believers. But actually no, he suggests that your marriage should only cause you to focus more deeply on God. I’ve never heard anyone talk about marriage the way that he does in this book. Marriage is not glorified in this book. God is. I mean, the title of the first chapter is ‘Marriage Isn’t That Great’. Lol

I would rate this book 4/5. It is definitely a must read, and I look forward to reading it again.

I’ve also set myself a challenge to read [at least] one book a month! Maybe I will also be posting more book reviews?! I find that sometimes I can engage in a book and read it relatively quickly, other times, not so quickly. But one thing I do recommend, no matter how long it takes you, read, and purpose to finish the books that you start. I’ve learnt SO much solely from the books I have read in my life.


So, how do you what books to read, what is good, where to buy… etc.

  1. One thing I have done is downloaded the Kindle App onto my phone. Now i’m kinda old school, I love paper books and my paper bible. However, one of the benefits of having the kindle app is that it allows you to download a sample of most books on amazon for free, this sample can range from a few pages, to 100 pages! It’s such a good feature, and usually provides just enough material to inform you whether or not you want to go ahead and read the full version of the book. So, if you want to get a book, but are not 100% sure, maybe download the sample and assess from there.
  2. BORROW books from friends. I have a number of books myself, but I also have borrowed books from friends in the past, and borrowed books to friends. This is what I love about books. Books are not to be kept but to be shared.
  3. Read as you travel. For any of you who commute to work/uni. Accompany that commute with reading. This will cause you to complete a book a lot quicker than you may have anticipated, as it does not rely on you carving out extra time in your day to read.
  4. CLC bookshops! These are awesome. They sell everything from Christian books to bibles, to birthday cards, to worship music! Type it in google, you will find them in and around London.



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